The Language of Tantrums
Tantrums are tough! A tantrum is a toddler’s way of physically communicating their undesired emotions. What could your child be trying to tell you amid all that screaming?
Advice from parents who’ve been there, done that.
Tantrums are tough! A tantrum is a toddler’s way of physically communicating their undesired emotions. What could your child be trying to tell you amid all that screaming?
Sure, when I read The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, I fantasized about carefully curated capsule wardrobes and matchy-matchy stackable storage bins. But I also couldn’t stop thinking: “So what if it doesn’t spark joy? What if I need it someday?”And 2020 has been full of somedays.
Other moms would talk about the hours-long, sleep-of-the-dead naps their children took, or how by three months of age they were putting their kids down to sleep at 8 p.m. and not hearing a peep from them till dawn. I wanted to scream. Or throw something. Or both, except I was too tired. Instead I’d chew my lip and turn away, crying, wondering how I was screwing up so badly at mothering that none of us had gotten a decent night’s sleep in years.
Kids are indefatigable creatures. Parents, on the other hand, are not, and it can quickly get tiring trying to think up a new and creative activity for each day. But since spending quality time with family is so important – particularly while your kids are young – it pays to brainstorm some innovative ways of hanging out together. Luckily, we’ve done the hard work for you, so keep reading to learn some new ways to spend time with kids.
If you have a challenging child, the kind who questions just about everything you ask them to do, finds it difficult to transition from one thing to the next when necessary, has a strong will and stays up nights trying to figure out how to drive you to the brink, consider this. Arguing with a child like this only encourages them because they can’t help themselves
“It’s a process, not an event.” I heard this about a number of things in my kiddo’s toddler life – weaning, teething, potty training. Now I’m midway through another process with kiddo – switching schools for a second time.
Like most adults in my age bracket (and younger), nearly everything I know about smart phones, the internet, social media, and my digital footprint is self-taught. My brother and I sometimes help our parents through the complexities of modern tech—like strong passwords and wireless routers. My mother bought her first smartphone in 2016, and while she enjoys having instant access to the weather, she still refuses to buy anything online.
I imagine parents at the turn of the 20th century had the same hesitation with automobiles. They probably watched their children puttering along in their “horseless buggies”, flabbergasted.
Just imagine, an entire generation taught themselves to drive. The equivalent can be said for Millennials who came of age when everyone was learning to use social media and handheld devices. In most cases, the younger generation taught their parents. No one ever explained to these young adults how posting a keg-stand pic freshman year could hurt their job search after graduation.
“You mean I have to actually talk to this person?” Not verbally. If used correctly, most parallel parenting communication is done through email.
You know those days when the kids’ noise level has reached a fever pitch, and all you want — with the passion of a parched woman in the desert — is a little peace and quiet? It’s even harder when you’re tired, which is every. single. day. There you are, bringing all the care you can muster to your mess of tiny humans, while silently screaming “Please SHUT UP for the love of God!”
Here are the five comeback strategies that work best when my wild things are winning.
I survived Lice War I when my daughter was three. Lice are on my mind again because I recently survived Lice War 2. I’m practically a three star general at this point.